Posts Tagged ‘quality of life’

Loving Choices

Saturday, March 20th, 2010

Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit confused about which problems should be addressed, and in what order, in my life. I sort of pinball between focusing on work, then health issues, then trying to get more joy in my life and then I come through the front door of our apartment and am met with dishes and disarray – “oh yeah… housework,” I sigh.

I read self-help books (to which I may have a slight addiction) and am reminded to practice self-care, eat fruits and veggies, put money in savings, do work I love, be creative, make time for my husband, etc… and it all becomes a huge list of things I have to remember but always seem to forget (or avoid). If I “plan my day in advance”, more things from the list seem to get done… but then I read some Eckhart Tolle and I chuck it all out the window to just “be here now”.

So my goal, for lack of a better word, for today is to put down the self-help books and just try to make the most loving choices for myself in each moment of the day. I don’t mean treating myself to a Leatherby’s hot fudge sundae (mmm, leatherbys), but rather, asking myself what would be the kindest option for me as if I were my own parent. Okay, I know, it’s a little self-help-ish… but sometimes it does help to reframe my thoughts in this way.

Hope you all enjoy the first day of Spring!

Excerpt From The Pipe And Slippers Life

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

So a couple of years ago, I sent a proposal for a non-fiction, lifestyle book called The Pipe And Slippers Life to my agent in New York. Long story short… after sending it to all of the top publishing houses it went nowhere. One reason: lack of platform (which in publishing speak means the author doesn’t already have a following).

Anyway, the whimsical book was about how my husband and I craved the old fashioned elegances of yester-year and a slower pace of life and simple ways that everyone could achieve those things. For your amusement, here is an excerpt on how to live the Pipe And Slippers life – focusing on men’s night attire:

MEN
The Bing Crosby
Ahhh… who doesn’t love a white Christmas? Dressed for comfort but always just a pair of shoes away from being able to jump in car to run an errand or having a putter around the garden, The Bing frequently turns to V-neck cashmere sweaters over a dress shirt and tie or cravat. He might pair this look with khaki trousers or gabardine slacks. The whole effect is breezy, Rat Pack cool, with just a hint of high moral fiber. It is not a huge change from what he wore to work, but it’s not a suit. The Bing’s accessories include tasseled slippers, a glass of Scotch, a piano, a fireplace and/or a Christmas tree. This look is good for lawyers and also gangsters trying to clean up their image.
(Also known as The Frank Sinatra.)

The David Niven
Splendid. Here is a man who exudes class, sophistication, and just a hint of repressed passion. The Niven look favors silk cravats that compliment the skin tone, a neutral smoking jacket in a luxurious fabric, and a piping hot cup of tea (with milk). His shirt is starched and his socks are thick to ward off the chill of evening. The effect shows that he likes to entertain guests but is also fond of quiet evenings at home playing chess with his butler. Accessories for the David Niven include low on the nose reading glasses which he can look over and say “hmmm evidently so”, a cigarette lighter to impress the ladies, and an old fashioned phone so he can chat with the Prime Minister. This look is good for executives and landed gentry with minor titles.
(Also known as The Louis Jourdan.)

The Hugh Hefner
This style works well for those who wish bedtime was all the time. The “Hef” is a mix of complimentary silk loungewear pieces. The pajamas should match top and bottom and be in a jewel tone or shimmering black. A silk dressing gown can be worn over top but belted if it’s a short gown and open (like a duster) if it’s long. The pajama top should have a collar and the bottoms should be drawstring. The Hefner likes to go barefoot in the hot weather and favors a leather slipper in the winter. Accessories might include a satin sleep mask, buxom blonde girlfriend(s), a top notch dry-cleaner, and a suntan. This playboy look is good for movie producers and men’s magazine publishers.
(Also known as The Jack Nicholson.)

The Jimmy Stewart
Our favorite after work look is the Jimmy Stewart. How could you miss with such a class-act representative? It is as American as baseball, apple pie, and self-made men of honor and action. This ensemble consists of cotton pajamas in either stripes or solid with accent color piping. The pajamas have a breast pocket and either a drawstring or elastic (with buttons) waistband. Some might throw in a white, ribbed tank top underneath but Robbie thinks this is over-egging the pudding. The Stewart favors a robe of flannel or terry cloth that he ties tight when retrieving the mail or letting the dog out. This look proudly says “I’m in for the evening” and requires little transition from watching television to crawling into bed. Accessories for the Jimmy Stewart include a wife and kids, shearing slippers, a wool scarf, and a pair of binoculars (for all you Rear Window fans). This look works well for dad’s and husband’s everywhere.
(Also known as The Gregory Peck)

Maybe the Danish ARE Happier

Saturday, May 23rd, 2009

This week I was lucky enough to spend time with relatives who live in Denmark and let me tell you, they are the healthiest looking people I’ve ever seen. My cousin especially looked tanned, relaxed and lovely… granted she is on vacation but I think she has some secrets that are still quite foreign to us American women. I paid attention.

1. She wore no makeup and her hair looked pretty natural color-wise, but she was rosy cheeked and her eyes bright. When I first saw her, she was laying out by the pool… in a classic, black halter bikini. Toned, gorgeous and confident! For dinner she threw on a bright cotton mini dress over her bikini and put her hair up in a messy chignon.

2. She did not eat lunch because she was full from a “large breakfast” – which was probably one of our normal sized breakfasts.

3. When she did snack, she had just a handful of dried blueberries.

4. In the late afternoon, I put out a fruit and fancy cheese plate. She unabashedly cut off small chunks of blue, triple cream and organic sharp cheddar cheese then ate them one at a time – savoring each bite with an accompanying comment about how good it was. Never a comment about how much fat or how many calories or how she “shouldn’t”.

5. She didn’t drink overly much but she didn’t turn down a second glass of wine.

6. She jumped up whenever there was a vague chance that my Mom needed help in the kitchen. When she wasn’t needed, she happily perched herself wherever in order to keep a good conversation going.

7. She was always calm and easy-going, despite there being some confusion about the plans for the rest of the evening and a lot of back-and-forth chatter about what to do.

8. She had dessert. Not a lot but more than a spoonful.

Now maybe she went out the next day and jogged for five miles or maybe she was high on Xanax… I don’t know… but I doubt it. Anyway, it was funny to see the difference between how she behaved and how I behaved (basically the opposite).

An Ever-changing Wish List

Saturday, May 9th, 2009

I’ve talked before about Mondo Beyondo lists (title courtesy of Superhero) and writing it down to make it happen but there’s something new to this process that I’m discovering. It seems when looking at my gloriously long things to do in life from 2006 that I had a lot more… what’s the word… energy back then. Here’s a sample from 2006:

Ride on a sailboat in the south of France
Work from home doing a job that’s creative
Have a book on the bestseller list
Travel to Paris with [husband]
Work in an art museum
Take long walks in the English countryside
Go dancing at the Press Club without feeling old
Research something old/historic
Be my own boss
Live where it isn’t so hot [briefly lived in Bay area]
Wear Hitchcock heroine inspired clothing
Learn how to light a paper napkin on fire so it floats in the air
Study archeology
Swing in a hammock
Win a prize
Listen live to a Calypso or Reggae band with steel drums

Okay you get the idea… and as you see, I’ve marked out the ones that I’ve done so far. However these days when I think about making a new list or even a more specific list, I can’t really generate the excitement to put pen to paper. I’ve realized that it’s not depression or stress that’s blocking me from coming up with ideas but rather the lack of those things that makes daydreaming less frequent.

When I worked 9-5, I would work out all kinds of eleborate scenarios for my life because, honestly, you need to have that Cinderella story running through your mind when you are sitting in your six month review with your boss.

I think now my list would still include the things mentioned above but also the approaching mid-life crisis items like:

Eat more vegetables
Floss every day
Exercise every day
Start Tai Chi class
{Basically “don’t die early” type of items}

Hey and if any of you can help me out with the items on my list from 2006, please do give me a shout at web {at} sachistorichouse {dot} com. Thanks in advance!

Euro-wannabe

Saturday, October 18th, 2008

I am something of a European wannabe. I devour books like Joie De Vivre by Robert Arbor and wonder if I will ever get to the point where I can linger over a sunny balcony breakfast of baguette, jam and coffee… instead of eating a bowl of Cheerios standing up in the kitchen or worse, sitting at the computer reading email.

I marvel at lithe Danish girls who look effortlessly chic riding around on their bicycles and appear demure yet confident when captured on the pages of The Sartorialist… while I pull on my worn-too-often jeans. If there is a copy of Marie Claire Maison around, I will pick it up and wonder if I should spend $8 on a magazine entirely in French or buy the laundry detergent and toothpaste we are desperately low on. Usually, the detergent wins.

So you see… in my mind, I would love to be more European… would love to cook straight from the garden a la Jamie Oliver At Home… but I never quite seem to get there. Maybe that’s okay though. Maybe being more European is a state of mind that I can achieve rather than a practical application. I can enjoy the beauty and vibrancy of life in the here and now – even if it’s just by adding a few strawberry slices to my Cheerios.